Many say love today comes faster than ever with a swipe, a heart emoji or a perfectly timed good morning. But let’s be honest , it also ends just as fast. One argument, one delay in replying, one I feel off and suddenly the connection that once felt magical turns into silence. I’ve seen it, I’ve felt it, and maybe…
We often imagine divorce as the ultimate reset button—a chance to leave behind not just a difficult partner, but all the relationship struggles that came with them. Yet many people are surprised to find familiar patterns emerging in their new relationships, sometimes with uncanny similarity to what they thought they’d left behind. This phenomenon isn’t…
The dawn of a new year often seems to bring pressure to make grand resolutions – familiar promises of weight loss, gym memberships, or ambitious goals. Yet I’ve learned to embrace a different path: the practice of approaching each day as a sacred opportunity for newness. Instead of year-long resolutions that become difficult to maintain…
“I never imagined I’d end up betrayed by my partner,” said Liz. “In my mind, infidelity was something that happened to other couples. Ones who didn’t communicate, or those who didn’t have anything in common. I was so wrong.” Liz and Ollie had been married for sixteen years when she discovered Ollie was having an…
Based on current research, there are countless features that account for a mature relationship. Some of these attributes are the following: mutual respect; open communication; independence; interdependence; trust; and commitment. What is mutual respect? Mutual respect is when two people consistently acknowledge and honor each other’s inherent worth, boundaries, feelings, and rights. It is a reciprocal…
Yael and I are thinking of everyone during this time of uncertainty, anxiety, and fear about the outcome of the upcoming election. It is our hope that you take comfort in the thought that we have each done what we can to voice our choice with dignity and integrity–phone banking, donating, speaking to friends and…
Adults often tell me, “I don’t have any fears.” I think, “really?!” Much of what is going on today both politically and personally is rooted in fear. In this blog, I’m going to talk in depth about fear and encourage you to think about and respond to fear. Expressing fear (or vulnerability) requires trusting that…
For me, I liked that association. I felt good about being considered brave. Still, if you are someone who thrives on the feeling of conquest, if you enjoy the hunt, feel seduced by achievement, if you are an adrenaline junkie, thrive under pressure, you’re likely burning more toxic energy than you think (or feel). You…
With radical gratitude, Dr. Paula
Folks, we are living in a polarized era sautéed with suspicion. You and I not only know this, we feel it — everyday. It can be difficult to discern the true from the false, and the energy it takes to do the daily mental calisthenics of fact and motive checking is colossal. While political polarization and divides…