Relational couples therapy is different from traditional couples therapy in which the couple talks to a therapist who just listens, nods, makes interpretations and gives advice. Relational therapy is dialogical. Both the therapist and the couple contribute to the process.
In relational couples therapy it's nearly impossible to begin changing the dynamics if the energy between you and your partner feels toxic and emotionally unsafe. Therefore, I assist partners in how to "respond to" and "be responsive" in a way that feels genuine and brings you close. When in reactive mode, verbal statements that could theoretically move the two of you in a more peaceful direction are drowned out in the face of the wounded partner's need to hang on to the injury he or she feels to his or her dignity. In the midst of battle, the continued experience of the affront, i.e., feeling unheard, unseen, misunderstood, and unappreciated leads to rage. This is the relational arena: what you do with each other moment to moment all day long. Call for an initial consultation.
The first step for new all couples. I rarely take a full history. Instead I help you loosen the grip when your instinct is to protect yourself from feeling awkward, insignificant, unlovable, weak, etc. Then imagine feeling relaxed and intimate and taking responsibility for your own safety in the relationship ... by smartly inviting your partner into emotionally safe exchanges without defending, numbing or shutting down.
Couples' Therapy & Intensives
The initial consult gives you a taste of how loving and warm your relationship can be! Intensives create a platform of emotional safety through deepening connection! Imagine all the bickering and accusations cease. Relax with your partner, easily being yourself, trusting they are easily being themselves--both being transparent and forthcoming. Wanting your special someone to recognize your vulnerability, wanting them to see the real you is something the two of you come to know in the intensive that you are capable of producing.
This exciting, introductory workshop based in Imago therapy & other relational modalities bring couples together so they can take in this universe of relationship repair possibilities. Partners get on the road of developing a more broad-based relational skills, trust in inner awareness and move each other in a much kinder direction when you get stuck in arguing and plain old terrible listening.
Research shows that children who suffer most are those whose parents divorce and then carry on the battle for years through legal challenges, arguments and refusing to cooperate with judge's orders. The chaos and strain that divorce puts on parents makes it difficult to be available and provide the security for their children. This 2-Day intensive will help couples separating or divorcing step beyond the power struggle & automatic reactive, hostile, hurtful behaviors and into intentional safe and healing communication & behavior.
Relational Skills Training
It’s easy to think that relationships are about luck or finding the right person. Love is not the least bit random or illogical but a wise recipe for survival and our most basic instinct. So to be successful in relationships today you need the right guidance and the proper tools to handle your attachment needs and fears, as well as mature insight into the link between sex and emotional bonding. This program offers the tools to help single individuals understand what is going on in relationships and introduces them to a whole new way of life.
The concept “victim” and “perpetrator” produces a kind of stasis of it's own. Because there is no amount of apologizing that will melt this rupture. It's only when partners know that you know what it was like, not only enduring the specific act of poor character, but robbing him/her of their trust ... of sureness in feeling s/he could never do that to me again will s/he stop apologizing and start living as the new you. This 2-Day Intensive allows partners restore connection using a healing process where there is real nourishment through feeling felt rather than through torturing the betrayer.
Couples' Circle is a place where couples share space and time with other couples who are also making changes in their marriage and who are willing to be honest about it. The Couples Circle allows partners to get a better perspective on themselves and ultimately bring about enduring relational change.
Women's Transformational Group
#1 for Women in Rhode Island. This sacred-experiential therapy group has been in existence for 30 years. Previous participants say it is like nothing like they have ever experienced before. The Women's Transformation group is a 12-week group for women, focusing on honoring our journeys, sharing stories and shining the light on the space between our sexuality and spirituality. One of the key interventions is examining the "sacred space between being a doormat and being a bitch." This group is offered in the Fall & Spring.
The average marriage in the U.S. currently lasts around 7.5 years. Individuals spend many hours and thousands of dollars planning for their wedding and forget to plan for the marriage. The Imago Start Right Stay Connected (SRSC) premarital program prepares individuals preparing for marriage to get the knowledge and skills to navigate the journey of marriage.