We often imagine divorce as the ultimate reset button—a chance to leave behind not just a difficult partner, but all the relationship struggles that came with them. Yet many people are surprised to find familiar patterns emerging in their new relationships, sometimes with uncanny similarity to what they thought they’d left behind. This phenomenon isn’t…
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Kendrick Lamar’s performance served as an unflinching mirror, compelling White America to confront its reflection. For some viewers, the layers of meaning may have been difficult to fully grasp – and understandably so. This wasn’t just entertainment; it was an artistic statement deeply rooted in America’s complex racial history, that has been shaped by generations…
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Donald Trump has started, as promised, his mass deportation exercises. They are kicking people out of the country left, right and center. They kicking in doors and letting folks know you are not wanted here. He’s getting on with the Whitening of America because that’s what he said he was going to do. And he’s…
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Let’s me get straight to the heart of it. Everyone’s talking about “rebuilding the Black family” like it’s some kind of magic that’s just gonna happen. But you can’t build a strong house without a solid foundation. And in our community, that foundation starts with healthy Black partnerships. See, we’ve got to get real about…
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Since the 2024 election results rolled in on November 6th, I have heard many women express feelings of shock, despair, powerlessness and anger. Not only have we seen, for the first time in US history, a constitutional right taken from us—we have also watched as a collection of male sexual predators, misogynists, racists and bullies…
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The dawn of a new year often seems to bring pressure to make grand resolutions – familiar promises of weight loss, gym memberships, or ambitious goals. Yet I’ve learned to embrace a different path: the practice of approaching each day as a sacred opportunity for newness. Instead of year-long resolutions that become difficult to maintain…
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“I never imagined I’d end up betrayed by my partner,” said Liz. “In my mind, infidelity was something that happened to other couples. Ones who didn’t communicate, or those who didn’t have anything in common. I was so wrong.” Liz and Ollie had been married for sixteen years when she discovered Ollie was having an…
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The decision to distance ourselves from our family rarely comes easily or suddenly. Instead, family estrangement typically emerges from years of pain, conflict, unacknowledged trauma and attempts to maintain relationships that ultimately prove emotionally unsustainable. The causes of such separations run deep, often interweaving multiple layers of hurt, misunderstanding, and irreconcilable differences. I’ve been there.…
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Based on current research, there are countless features that account for a mature relationship. Some of these attributes are the following: mutual respect; open communication; independence; interdependence; trust; and commitment. What is mutual respect? Mutual respect is when two people consistently acknowledge and honor each other’s inherent worth, boundaries, feelings, and rights. It is a reciprocal…
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When we’re trapped in righteous certainty, wielding evidence like weapons, real conversation dies. I’ve been there – armed with Google searches and social media posts, certain of my rightness, deaf to other perspectives. But we’ve all experienced the opposite too: those magical conversations where curiosity leads the way. Time flows, laughter comes easily, and even…
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