Healthy, happy couples are good at quickly attending to the glitches, both small and large, that every relationship encounters. Those of us who do not naturally know how to do this will have to learn — or otherwise we will suffer a gradual buildup of un-repaired ruptures. Like straws accumulating on a camel’s back, this buildup eventually leads us to feel unsafe or guarded with each other.

In a guarded state, our brains expect bad things to happen, and thus braced for this, we will then react in ways that become self-fulfilling prophecies.

We will trigger each other without even knowing how we are doing it. Reactive cycles will become more common. Little things will trigger upsets way out of proportion to the actual events. And we will find ourselves feeling less relaxed, less intimate, and more alone. Emotional walls may build up. We may become increasingly distant.

This gradual erosion of loving feelings and connection is common — so common that many of us have come to consider it normal. But wouldn’t you prefer to take another path with your partner? What if you knew how to prevent poor communication? What if you could repair riffs skillfully and quickly? What if you could learn to heal relationship upsets in a way that deepens your intimacy and makes you feel more secure with one another? The ability to repair like this is a skill you can learn.

The tools you will acquire in this 2-hour session will address the root cause of the reactivity that gets triggered in your relationship. You will learn how to use any upset or difference as a doorway to mutual healing and deeper trust. The tools also improve communication with your partner, your children and all significant relationships in your life. By the time you complete this course you will:

1. Know how to defuse conflicts and get back to feeling close.
2. Know how to help your partner feel secure with you, so he or she is less likely to get triggered.
3. Be able to ask for what you want in ways that it will be received.
4. Make sure that your connection with your partner doesn’t get compromised by hidden resentments or unfinished business.
5. Know how to work with your own unfinished emotional business, and past wounds in a way that promotes greater self love and self-esteem.

The cost is $299.00. It all includes material and handouts.