Typically the usual models of relationship counseling involve a couple talking about their problems – they dissect, measure and assign blame and look for solutions. There are often negotiations, compromises and agreements which are often a band-aid over the real issue. The frustrations that a couple experience are not the real problem but a symptom of a deeper underlying problem, usually childhood wounding. Imago relationship therapy helps a couple to understand the real issue on a deeper level. When this happens they can move towards each other, connect with each other and they are able to talk in a way where they can both feel heard; They will understand each other and then can begin to have a more empathic connection to each other and the problems and issues will dissolve.
Couples who attend the sessions will learn skills that will help them to identify the real cause of conflict, how to work through it and transform their relationship.
The theory provides a safe environment to explore painful and sensitive issues.
Who would benefit from this process?
- Couples who would like to enrich an existing good relationship
- Couples who are starting a new relationship and want it to last
- Couples who are tired of being in an unsatisfactory relationship and want to learn how to acquire the love they want.
- Couples whose relationship is on the rocks and they need to make a decision about it.
- Couples who want to resolve intense conflict and would like to learn some tools to communicate about frustrations in a functional safe way.
- Couples who want to provide an attuned, safe and functional environment for their children.
You would benefit from Imago Relationship Therapy …
- If you are frequently thinking that divorce is the only answer
- If you and your partner are constantly fighting about the same issues
- If you find that discussing difficult issues always ends in a fight
- If you or your partner are constantly expecting the other to be the same as you
You will learn:
- How to express how you feel
- How to ask for what you want
- Identify how you are contributing to the tensions in your relationship.
- That your partner has a different reality which is not wrong because it differs from your reality.
- What triggers your partner’s behavior.
All sessions require the couple to come together.