You and your partner work exclusively with me in a private therapy session. You have my full attention, expertise and 15 years of mastery in couples therapy for the entire day. A full-day session can help to create an environment of trust and safety in your intimate partnership because you have time to relax and lower your defenses with a singular focus on making the changes you need to make in your relationship. Even the most entrenched negative relationship patterns, where there is no hope in sight, shifts in the way you approach your partner and this goes a long way in helping the dance move from hopelessness, conflict and power struggle to compassionate collaboration.

One, Two or Three Day Intensives

Relationship improvement isn’t always linear or clearly observed. The unconscious agenda of committed relationships is to his us grow in our capacity to move through childhood hurts and open to healthy connection and intimacy. Shedding core, fear-based beliefs and self-protection strategies is a life long journey. Couples intensives provide you with ample time to examine root causes of pain, frustrations and repetition negative patterns. Couples often report that they have tried to implement changes in their relationship and been met with roadblocks or set-backs. I ask that you stay open with the process by embracing a “Beginner’s Mind” (an attitude of openness, curiosity and possibility). The knowledge and skills you gain in the intensives are practical and portable; you take home what you learn home as well as a plan to start integrating your knew skills and knowledge in your daily life as an individual and as a couple. If you can’t takes the skills home it doesn’t do much good.

Intensive are 1, 2 and 3 days. I highly recommend a 3-day length if you are under deep distress of a past affair, or significant emotional wounds, if someone is deeply ambivalent about staying married, or if you have multiple significant issues.

For couples who are not in deep distress, but may be looking for something different (maybe traditional therapy isn’t helping) a 1 or 2-day length may be sufficient, but check with me before booking this intensive. A one or two intensive is the equivalent of 3-5 months of weekly cognitive, emotional and behavioral therapy. 

The intensive can happen over a weekend or during the week. Hours are from 10:00 am-6:30 pm with a good hour and fifteen minutes lunch break and short breaks in between. The intensive is intensive, but they are not overwhelming. We take our time, we slow down so we can move away from highly charged moments of distress to compassionate listening and loving responses. Intensives are a warriors journey.

What You Can  Expect from Participating in a Private Intensive

You bring new eyes to you partner and value their separate existence. The mutual support of the process of self-actualization is the definition of a conscious relationship. In the words of Kahlil Gibran, in the Prophet, say it best, “let there be spaces in your togetherness. And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.” As you put the skills and ideas that learn in the intensive to work you celebrate and find nourishment in the authenticity of one another. Each of you will identify and accept responsibility for the emotional baggage that you bring to the relationship. As such, this makes healing inevitable and possible in your relationship, but it requires dedication, gentleness, patience and commitment. 

The focus of our work is grounded in the Imago Intentional Dialogue and processes.  You hone the receptive skill of listening. It’s amazing how people respond more positively to us when we offer them evidence that we are genuinely listening. Generally people relax and become more willing to listen to our needs and feelings when they feel heard. Listening will help you gain empathy for each other’s story. The empathy will create a new condition where your marriage/relationship now becomes a place of healing and restoration rather than pain and battling against each other.

So WELCOME!!! Whatever state of mind you are in, whatever state of your relationship and everything about you is welcome. Feel free to call or email me. I am happy to answer any questions.