Is the passion fading in your relationship? This Valentine’s Day, reignite your bond and reconnect deeply with your partner during our life-changing Getting the Love You Want weekend workshop! In just 2 days, this intensive couples retreat will guide you through transformative practices to: – Uncover each other’s emotional needs and rekindle feelings of warmth…
Do festering tensions, circular fights, and disconnection leave you feeling your relationship is on the brink? Are you losing hope for a peaceful holiday season together as pressures seem to be mount? The couples intensive weekend is designed to quickly resuscitate and fortify struggling bond before the holidays. Over one or two days, you and…
Amid vitriolic societal divides, we’ve lost sight of what matters most in our work – loving clients. How did we get so off track? The blame lies with all of us. As a young therapist, I conformed to modalities valuing compliance over connection, though it never fit my spirit. My own internalized shame led me…
“You’re strong,” sounds like a compliment until you realize some folks see Black men as an unbreakable force of nature, incapable of experiencing pain, sorrow, fear or disappointment. For generations, White people have crafted myths to justify the exploitation of Black men. For example, when Black people describe their pain, doctors often doubt their experiences…
When someone gives an ultimatum in the relational context it is a demand that one person makes to another for that person to “do something” or “not do something.” An ultimatum has a consequence that is implied. When we make demands of our partners, they almost always fail. It is an attempt to try and…
In a life filled with visible and invisible struggles, the last place a person wants to exert great effort is—at home. Ironically, if a person does put forth time and energy into his or her home life and marriage, that person can become a safe haven from the inequities, racial harms and pains experienced in the…
What does it mean to be human? This is a frightening question these days. Wouldn’t it be easier to stay on the surface of things and medicate ourselves rather than deal with stimulation, titillation or unpredictability in relationships; with whatever it is we do that allows the present reality to be produced over and over…
Do you sometimes have trouble seeing how your behavior impacts others? Do you rage at your partner and after you calm down apologize and brush it off by saying, “That was my alcoholic/addict behavior?” Do you have trouble communicating your fears, disappointments and desires to your partner? Do you obsess about your ex-partner’s and your…
The relational paradigm is a shift in thinking. It shifts our perspective from seeing a world made up of things, to seeing a world that is open and made up primarily of relationships. It tells us that a deeper level of reality exist beyond what we can articulate. A place where everything is connected to…