We live in an age of life hacks, productivity shortcuts, and five-minute solutions to complex problems. So it’s no surprise that many of us approach relationships with the same mindset: There must be a trick, a technique, or a secret formula that will make love easier. But here’s the truth that no one wants to…
Are you looking for a space where you can speak honestly about life’s challenges without judgment? This transformation group for men can be helpful because it offers a unique, judgement-free environment for addressing some of the challenges men face with shared understanding. Being among other men who experience similar struggles creates an inherent sense of…
The decision to distance ourselves from our family rarely comes easily or suddenly. Instead, family estrangement typically emerges from years of pain, conflict, unacknowledged trauma and attempts to maintain relationships that ultimately prove emotionally unsustainable. The causes of such separations run deep, often interweaving multiple layers of hurt, misunderstanding, and irreconcilable differences. I’ve been there.…
When we’re trapped in righteous certainty, wielding evidence like weapons, real conversation dies. I’ve been there – armed with Google searches and social media posts, certain of my rightness, deaf to other perspectives. But we’ve all experienced the opposite too: those magical conversations where curiosity leads the way. Time flows, laughter comes easily, and even…
In an era where truth is treated like clay to be molded, where we’re pressured to doubt our own eyes and experiences, suspicion becomes more than just caution – it becomes a survival instinct. We find ourselves in a strange landscape where basic facts are labeled “fake,” where documented events are dismissed as “staged,” where…
Yael and I are thinking of everyone during this time of uncertainty, anxiety, and fear about the outcome of the upcoming election. It is our hope that you take comfort in the thought that we have each done what we can to voice our choice with dignity and integrity–phone banking, donating, speaking to friends and…
Tom (his pseudonym) walked into my office, sat down, put his head into his hands and cried out, “I am a liar. I have lied my entire life.” For much of Tom’s life, his lies had to do with his inability to navigate his inner life and therefore he was in a battle with himself.…
Adults often tell me, “I don’t have any fears.” I think, “really?!” Much of what is going on today both politically and personally is rooted in fear. In this blog, I’m going to talk in depth about fear and encourage you to think about and respond to fear. Expressing fear (or vulnerability) requires trusting that…
For me, I liked that association. I felt good about being considered brave. Still, if you are someone who thrives on the feeling of conquest, if you enjoy the hunt, feel seduced by achievement, if you are an adrenaline junkie, thrive under pressure, you’re likely burning more toxic energy than you think (or feel). You…
With radical gratitude, Dr. Paula