Tom (his pseudonym) walked into my office, sat down, put his head into his hands and cried out, “I am a liar. I have lied my entire life.” For much of Tom’s life, his lies had to do with his inability to navigate his inner life and therefore he was in a battle with himself.…
Delving into self-exploration paves the way for genuine living (and loving). This introspective journey involves unraveling the complex tapestry of our personalities and beliefs, reconnecting us with the essence of who we are. That part of us that is unbroken and whole. Through this process of peeling the layers of the onion, we unearth dormant…
“This is our time,” Paula said to me as we watched Doug Emhoff introduce his wife Kamala Harris as the new Democratic presidential candidate. What she meant is that this is the time for interracial couples to shine. As we learn to honor and celebrate our differences, we become living examples of healing in a…
Adults often tell me, “I don’t have any fears.” I think, “really?!” Much of what is going on today both politically and personally is rooted in fear. In this blog, I’m going to talk in depth about fear and encourage you to think about and respond to fear. Expressing fear (or vulnerability) requires trusting that…
For me, I liked that association. I felt good about being considered brave. Still, if you are someone who thrives on the feeling of conquest, if you enjoy the hunt, feel seduced by achievement, if you are an adrenaline junkie, thrive under pressure, you’re likely burning more toxic energy than you think (or feel). You…
Improvisational sex can be the best sex you have ever had! I have worked with a lot of skeptical couples, but I assure them that when they relax and lean into improvisational sex something truly amazing happens. Their sexual relationship is re-ignited, and they find themselves enjoying sex more and feeling physically and emotionally closer.…
With radical gratitude, Dr. Paula
Folks, we are living in a polarized era sautéed with suspicion. You and I not only know this, we feel it — everyday. It can be difficult to discern the true from the false, and the energy it takes to do the daily mental calisthenics of fact and motive checking is colossal. While political polarization and divides…
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It’s beginning to look a lot like Christmas. The holiday season has arrived in full force. Front yards now showcase dancing reindeer, inflated Santa’s, twinkling lights and candy canes. As the old year fades into the darkness of winter, rituals—quirky and quaint, strange threads of continuity–create meaning, captivating us with wonder. For some, this may…