Yesterday, I drove to one of Rhode Island’s exclusive private beaches. It wasn’t my plan to go there; I just happened upon it in the search for a beautiful space where I could participate in the 2-minute Global Moment of Prayer with Marianne Williamson. I was surprised, because in past visits I have received looks…
There is an important question before us. How to save the planet? How to stop a pandemic? Yes. Yes. But the question I’m thinking about is: How do we make it through a few months of self-quarantine…and not go crazy? Bonkers? Insane? Stark raving mad? How are we to keep sane with our precious sanity…
Toilet paper hoarding? This is classic psychological…anal…behavior. Meaning, Covid-19 has all of us searching for some semblance of sanity and a way to restore order—cleanliness and purity. We want to feel that our world is neat, organized and perfectly arranged again. We don’t want to deal with the messiness of washing our ass!! Ugh!! We…
About twenty-five years or so ago, I began noticing and illuminating what I saw as a series of systemic problems, discrepancies and the impact they were having (and would have) on us psychologically and emotionally, especially here in this country. Many deemed my critique racially motivated, debatable—lacking scholarly luster. In other words, no one was…
Stress. Pressure. We are slammed with too much stimulation and we are gasping and grasping for a lifeline to a more settled, grounded place. What I call “the overwhelmed expressway” is this global destabilizing force that combines excessive stimulation, massive information overload, unrelenting pressure and a dread-infusing numbness. Riding the overwhelmed expressway keeps us in energetic…
I once heard a speaker say, “Getting rid of jealousy in a relationship is like trying to grab soap bubbles.” It isn’t real. The only way to end jealousy is to shift our mind–our consciousness so we can see the jealousy for what it really is–fear and control. I looked up jealousy in the dictionary.…
“Oh Lordy!” The hatred, indifference, injustice, bigotry, and predatory capital-“Ism” have made us a country of institutionalized trauma. Is this a coincidence? Not really. It’s a relationship. A society solely based on profits can never be allowed to collapse in a purely capitalist economy — even if it means driving every last one of us, except Jeff Bezos, into…
Our relationships fail because we’re doing it all wrong. To obtain relationship success in 2020 — we have to know that we can tolerate ourselves and someone else—sometimes simultaneously. We need to both understand who we are and what feeds us—separately and together. We are not the same—We are different! Even though we have a lot in common, we ARE…
Relationships are hard! Why not just surrender to the idea that we (adults) struggle in our relationships? Pride? Ego? Fear? We tell stories about crazy women (and men), about our psycho exe’s. We write them off as emotional wrecks … narcissists … selfish. We label them. We shame them. We judge them when we are not equipped…
I broke someone’s heart twenty-nine years ago. I did not do this gracefully or gently. I had fallen in love with someone else and the transition was hasty and unskillful. I didn’t talk to this person for almost twenty years, though I thought about the person often. And then I had my heart broken. I thought…