This conversation is about tweaking our own perspectives. It is a conversation about who we are, and who we have been: crouching and playing small. We are not dwelling in the fullness of our own deeper self—our magnificent, amazing, essential self. We don’t take enough responsibility as mothers, as fathers … we don’t take enough responsibility…
Pride is a problem. I’m talking about the kind of Pride that keeps us from being honest with ourselves and others, because as adults we don’t want to admit we don’t know. I’m talking about the kind of Pride that we no longer allow ourselves to be influenced by our spouse or other significant relationships. I’m…
This is a significant time for Jews and Christians. For Jews, it marks the freedom of the Israelite people after 400 years of slavery in Egypt under the narcissistic, egotistical Pharaoh. Many Jews commemorate Passover with a voluminous meal—the Passover Seder, during which items representing parts of the Passover story—most notably Matzo—are eaten. Christians worldwide were…
Intimate relationships are usually the place where our greatest judgmental thoughts rise up. We are not as harsh on anyone as we are with the person we love the most. So let’s say our partner did something really terrible and we’re struggling with it. We felt s/he has wronged us so we start obsessing about it…
I was listening to a news program the other day and was shocked by how many billions of dollars we spend on war. Then I became very curious. I wondered: how much do we spend on building peace? Our relationships are getting worse because we are more invested in fighting each other and less invested in building peace…
Couples intensive therapy is a new, cutting edge alternative to weekly, one-hour therapy. The Imago couples private intensive shifts away from the traditional, medicalized, diagnostic paradigm to a more holistic, experiential, integrative, strength-based, dialogical model based on Imago Relationship Therapy, principles and practices. The couples intensive is specifically designed to help transform the symptoms of relationship pain and…
We are the most powerful when we are happy. I don’t think I can focus on this topic too much because if you decide to keep reading and apply some of these practices to your life, you will shift away from the heaviness and agitation that life seems to surround us these days, into joy…
Relationship skills matter regardless of who we are. Our education and early socialization place a lot of emphasis on how to communicate with others through reading, writing and speaking. But there is very little emphasis is placed on listening. Considering that listening is the communication skill we use most frequently, it’s embarrassing how little time…
Attachment may indeed be the linchpin of relationships. With couples and marriage therapy it quickly becomes evident how securely attached the individuals are and how the relationship operates follows from that. As humans, our knowledge and experience of relationships and security of attachment is determined by and large through our early experiences with our parents…