I believe your relationship can thrive! I believe your relationship can be what you want it to be. Fifty percent of our challenges in relationships are simply due to a lack of skills. This is especially true if we’ve never seen a competent, successful relationship. Have you? Most of us probably didn’t learn those skills in…
Infidelity happens for plenty of reasons. None of them good. It happens because there’s a moment when the opportunity is wide open and full of aliveness and temptation, it’s exciting, it’s there and it acts like it can keep a secret; and as though it won’t do any damage at all. One small, stupid, opportunistic…
Dear Paula, It seems that I can do nothing to please my love. I love this man tremendously, and I know that he loves me very much too. We would like to get married next year and start a family, but this pattern is beginning to scare me. When we argue, he so easily flies…
It’s easy to hide the problems in a relationship when you’re away for half the week. I’m a traveling consultant who was dating my girlfriend for almost six years. For most of our relationship, we’d just spend time together on the weekends. I was ready to propose to her and had all the plans laid…
Before Imago, Yael and I had no idea how to have a relationship, nor did we know what to do with conflict. On some level we knew that we had within us what we needed to figure it out, but we lacked a framework, a way of understanding relationship, a common language and a skill-set that…
Imago relationship therapy (Imago is the Latin word for Image) is a cutting edge, transformational, relational model that helps couples restore connection, rediscover aliveness and joy and amplify the positive rather than the difficulties. Imago also teaches couples how to be empathetic and vulnerable. Oh … no, the “V” word. Unfortunately culture misguides us into thinking…
Since the election, a large majority of us have expressed feeling high anxiety and deep uncertainty around the country’s future. Seventeen months into the current administration, our nervous systems have been stuck on overload—by a sense of being under psychic, emotional, mental and spiritual attack almost daily. Some folks, including myself, have found relief in…
When we give someone the gift of forgiveness, it allows us to release our hurts and disappointments—having digested our grief about them. When we forgive, we “give for” ourself and those who hurt us. We move on, letting go of what harmed or offended us. Forgiveness does not mean blindly walking back into a…
“He hit me!” Daria announced in a harsh tone when she and Ricardo came in for their first couple’s session. “You provoked me until I did. You wanted me to hit you!” Ricardo rebutted. “No, I didn’t!” You always blaming me for everything. Why can’t you just take responsibility and say you’re abusive. You’re just…