Attempting to take one’s life over a break-up might seem dramatic and perhaps over the top to some people, but if you’re someone who grew up in alcoholism it may not seem that far fetched. Having protected our families by keeping secrets, we continue to act in certain ways to get approval. We take responsibility…
Hey Friends! I know that loving someone who has walls up is not a careless decision. It takes real commitment to give yourself as the one who takes the first strike at the concrete surrounding someone’s heart. Many of us in recovery are people who have painted over the fragile skin of our hearts with…
There is almost no bigger challenge in recovery than being married or in a committed relationship. I say this having worked in the field of mental health and addiction recovery for many years. During that time I have come across hundreds of recovering addicts and non-alcoholics who have struggled to maintain a loving relationship. From…
Donald J. Trump was elected the 45th President of the United States. A billionaire businessman and reality television show host with no political experience is leading the country. There are many who still remember how they felt on the night of November 8, 2016. And I, as many around the world, heard the message loudly.…
“If you take more than you give, you are forceful. If you give more than you take, you are powerful” Anonymous I am writing this to you today, January 16, 2017, on Martin Luther King Day, because he was a model of the distinction between being powerful and serving others, instead of being forceful and…
One of the key issues that I am acutely aware of is that both partners want and need to feel heard before they can open their minds to each other’s point of view. Even the slightest hint of feeling blamed or dismissed can trigger a backlash so deep where both partners will shut down because…
The election is over, but the repercussions of many relationships may be just beginning as spouses all over the contemplate uncomfortable holidays as they have been tested across the political divide. Unfortunately, it has been one huge freakin’ polarizing event. When I met Yael she was living her life as an Orthodox Jew, who kept…
Hello Friends & Happy Thanksgiving! I’ve had so many feelings and it’s a lot to express in one email. I would like to say that I had a great time in Los Angeles and I was grateful to spend some time with my Imago colleagues from around the world as well those who participated in…
Hello Friends! I’ll get right to it. One thing I know for sure, and unfortunately I know this from experience, is that racism and misogyny are devastatingly alive in this country. Sorry folks, this isn’t about Trump become our next President. It’s about what’s been hidden, ignored, weaponized … those whom we have victimized ……