Anger & Conflict

A sign of healthy conflict is that it makes you both feel like have discovered something—that you know one another better. Contrary to popular myths, no relationship is without conflict. We get into conflict typically because we think and feel differently about things. A relationship is only as good as the conflict it can hold.…

Thoughts on Being Single

Over the weekend I spoke with a friend who really wants to be in a relationship, but often finds herself in a lot of passionate but stormy relationships. She is attractive and tends to believe that her sexuality is all she has to offer. But once she’s slept with someone, she feels she’s satisfied her…

Thoughts on Being Single

Over the weekend I spoke with a friend who really wants to be in a relationship, but often finds herself in a lot of passionate but stormy relationships. She is attractive and tends to believe that her sexuality is all she has to offer. But once she’s slept with someone, she feels she’s satisfied her…

Skils for Loving Pt. 1

Do you sometimes want the rewards of real love so badly that, when you don’t get them, you feel like giving up altogether? Fear and doubt has been wreaking havoc on my mind & heart lately and the discomfort led me to doubt what I believe is true–that love sometimes develops through tests of disappointments…

This Breaks My Heart . . .

I’ve been emailing back and forth with a woman who is trying to get emotionally closer to her boyfriend, but in a way that always results in their arguing. Here’s the deal: It’s so HARD to get close to someone when you don’t understand how to problem-solve through conflict. Don’t get mad at me… Just…