A lot of us get into relationships only to find ourselves becoming someone we do not recognize. We become mean to our partners and we don’t like the way it feels. We also don’t like the way the other person is treating us. In moments of quiet and solitude, we think this is not who…
Is your relationship failing and you are wondering how to get back up again? I realize this is a very vulnerable subject. So I hope this helps you today. I was working with a couple last week and the husband asked me, “Do you work with a lot of couples? We have been struggling a…
Would you like to turn the marriage you have into the one you want? These truths will help you do just that and build a strong, healthy marriage. Ninety percent of the frustrations you partner has with you are really about the issues from childhood. That means only 10 percent is about each of you…
In the “IMAGO Providence Couple Intensive Sessions and Workshops” you learn that your relationship journey will guide you back to your original wholeness, full potential, and aliveness. To rediscover the person you were born to be you must fully embrace the journey. You’ve likely discovered that your reactivity and defenses are blocking your progress along…
The greatest challenge any couple face is living with the seeming contradiction of the relationship paradigm—namely that there is no such thing as an individual, that no one is an island, completely independent and self-sufficient, since we are all connected within a universe of interrelationships, and so how do we live in relationship, at the…
One of the assumptions I have when I work with couples is that their call to healing and wholeness has been in the making for many generations. I tell couples that we fall in love with the person who carries both positive and negative characteristics of our significant caretakers and/or those who influenced us the…
Couples tell me all the time that their main problem in their relationships is communication. They generally believe that if they could just learn how to communicate with their partners and more specifically how their partners should communicate with them their problems would be solved. I hear you, but I think what couples could benefit…
Negotiation and Contracts is Basically More of the Same Many counselors are taught to use negotiation skills and contracts to help resolve conflicts. While these methods sometimes help, their benefit is often short-term. Using contracts and negotiation tends to civilize the power struggle for a period of time — until those very contracts become another…