Holding your reality and another person’s reality at the same time is essential to intimacy, conflict resolution, and emotional maturity. In my work with couples, I often watch partners get stuck in a contest over whose version of events is the real one. Each brings evidence, defends their intentions, challenges the other’s reading of what…
Look at the world with me. What do you see in people? I see people who are exhausted — but still here. People who are still asking questions. Still, somewhere beneath the weight of it all, wanting, hoping, praying for things to be different. That wanting? That’s not nothing. That’s everything. Yes, many feel like…
I wish I were exaggerating, but I’m not: barely a week passes without the topic of loneliness making into therapy sessions. I’ve spoken with countless people — who are hungry for real relationships and romantic connection. Everyone wants it. Almost no one seems to be finding it. So what’s going wrong? It’s a paradox: there…
Being yelled at or dismissed outright is painful — but it’s not the worst thing. The worst is the person who smiles and nods, says “Yeah, totally,” and has already decided, before you’ve finished speaking, that nothing you say matters. That’s the sign. If you grew up in a dysfunctional home, you probably know this…
Many say love today comes faster than ever with a swipe, a heart emoji or a perfectly timed good morning. But let’s be honest , it also ends just as fast. One argument, one delay in replying, one I feel off and suddenly the connection that once felt magical turns into silence. I’ve seen it, I’ve felt it, and maybe…
It’s can be hard to give ourselves credit. To look in the mirror and recognize all of the things that make us unique, desirable, and for lack of a better term: The total package. If you’re like some of my clients, you frequently get caught in the trap of comparing yourself to others. Especially in…
This country is cracking. The cracks aren’t subtle anymore. They’re full fractures—structural, spiritual, and psychological. Efforts are being made across the political sphere to suppress open and truthful conversation. Reality is obscured by hook or by crook, and it’s deeper than propaganda and false narratives. We are witnessing a breakdown not just in politics, but…
“We’re motivated by our feelings. We’re inspired by our emotions.” — Dr. Paula Smith Many of us walk around in a world addicted to vibes, running red lights emotionally, and then acting shocked when we have crashed into a situation with consequences. Most people don’t know the difference between feelings and emotions — and the results show. Broken relationships.…