The “shadow” is a psychological term for everything we cannot see in ourselves. The shadow side are essential aspects of our personality that we have learned to hide or suppress in order to protect ourselves. I understood how important knowing my shadow was when I began my journey in 12-step recovery and again in my clinical…
Merry Christmas Friends! Many times the way forward is to look back, to read and study the wisdom of prophetic leaders whose brilliance opens us to the limitless possibilities and potentialties that reside within and between us. On Christmas day nearly a half-century ago, Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. stood before his congregation at Ebenezer…
Mars and Venus: Disintegrating the Old Conceptions of Patriarchal Masculinity in Marriage What is extraordinary is that once men are woken up, they can be taught how to be more relational. They can become aware of their negative patterns and be better able to put themselves aside and show up for their partners. But they…
The past election brought to the relationship stage a polarization in this country like we have not seen since the 1960’s. It brought to light a crisis between red and blue masculinity, a crisis in values. It woke us up out of our complacency about patriarchy, gender roles and their effect on psychotherapy. I want…
Relationships are baffling. The baffling part is how we can both love and hate the person we love the most. I remember when Yael and I started dating I was baffled by the strange reversals of some of our dates. I remember the date would start out full of excitement, curiosity and passion and end…