Politics has been at the forefront of nearly everyone’s mind lately, with protest gatherings on both sides across our country. Typically, when couples go to bed they are sheltered from the political barrage of news, but they may not be as insulated in the bedroom as they once thought. Pillow talk between spouses and lovers…
Politics has been at the forefront of nearly everyone’s mind lately, with protest gatherings on both sides across our country. Typically, when couples go to bed they are sheltered from the political barrage of news, but they may not be as insulated in the bedroom as they once thought. Pillow talk between spouses and lovers…
What is often missing in addiction recovery is deep-feeling (inner child) work. The word addiction can be confusing because most addicts/alcoholics like myself have put the cork in the bottle. We stopped the addiction, but haven’t stopped the addictiveness. We go to another addiction. The addictiveness is like the “hole” in the soul. The “hole”…
Relationships are baffling. The baffling part is how we can both love and hate the person we love the most. I remember when Yael and I started dating I was baffled by the strange reversals of some of our dates. I remember the date would start out full of excitement, curiosity and passion and end…
A lot of heterosexual relationships go off the deep end because partners are engaging in vicious interpersonal battles out of a mystification with love, co-creating a relational atmosphere of sadomasochistic intimate terrorism … instead of real love. One of the dangers of patriarchy for men and women is blind obedience, i.e., never questioning what is…
What does it mean to be human? This is a frightening question these days. Wouldn’t it be easier to stay on the surface of things and medicate ourselves rather than deal with stimulation, titillation or unpredictability in relationships; with whatever it is we do that allows the present reality to be produced over and over…
Yael and I actually do possess the capacity to empathize with each other’s intentions and behavior, but it was a capacity we failed entirely to draw on that horrible, terrible, very bad morning. Even the best relationships, at times, fail to draw on this capacity; especially when our brains are “Hijacked” in conflict. Why? Why…
And I behaved in a way that is less than who I am. Yael and I don’t have children so our mornings are usually serene and consist of prayer and mediation; separately (and sometimes together), and getting Niles up, our 4 ½ year old Green-Cheek Conure. Getting Niles up means moving him from his sleep…
Do you sometimes have trouble seeing how your behavior impacts others? Do you rage at your partner and after you calm down apologize and brush it off by saying, “That was my alcoholic/addict behavior?” Do you have trouble communicating your fears, disappointments and desires to your partner? Do you obsess about your ex-partner’s and your…