You are probably aware of this, but the biggest weapon in your relationship arsenal is your ego. When it comes to egotistical love (the unhealthy kind of love), you turn to your ego to make the decisions, rather than your spirit. You might be wondering why is this a problem? The problem with this is that…
Have you ever wondered what prompts couples to give up on their marriage? While there are certain events that can push a marriage over the edge many couples are successfully able to weather a lousy marriage for a long time. Other than infidelity, I have observed that therapy is often the cause for one spouse to…
A horrible metaphor of our post-modern society is addiction. The addiction to drugs, alcohol, cocaine, and culturally sanctioned, corporatized prescription medications is arguably one of the greatest problems facing Western society today. When addiction(s) hook you, they take your longing captive; and freedom is invaded by an attachment—the need for more. The depth and complexity…
Stop crying! Dry up those tears. Stop crying! Folks tell us we are weak for crying; When all we want is a hug … a squeeze. We apologize for crying. With our tears streaming without warning, Folks interrupt our crying; When our tears need listening and not someone’s preaching. Can they tell we crying? The…
Although Impeach is “a legal term used by the legislative body to level charges against a government official,” the heart of this word speaks to a decision many of us have faced when our relationships are on the brink of ending—whether or not to Impeach our partner … Impeach our relationship. I have always…
This conversation is about tweaking our own perspectives. It is a conversation about who we are, and who we have been: crouching and playing small. We are not dwelling in the fullness of our own deeper self—our magnificent, amazing, essential self. We don’t take enough responsibility as mothers, as fathers … we don’t take enough responsibility…
Pride is a problem. I’m talking about the kind of Pride that keeps us from being honest with ourselves and others, because as adults we don’t want to admit we don’t know. I’m talking about the kind of Pride that we no longer allow ourselves to be influenced by our spouse or other significant relationships. I’m…
This is a significant time for Jews and Christians. For Jews, it marks the freedom of the Israelite people after 400 years of slavery in Egypt under the narcissistic, egotistical Pharaoh. Many Jews commemorate Passover with a voluminous meal—the Passover Seder, during which items representing parts of the Passover story—most notably Matzo—are eaten. Christians worldwide were…
Intimate relationships are usually the place where our greatest judgmental thoughts rise up. We are not as harsh on anyone as we are with the person we love the most. So let’s say our partner did something really terrible and we’re struggling with it. We felt s/he has wronged us so we start obsessing about it…