Watch Paula talk about the Private Intensive Sessions she designs for Couples. Couple intensive sessions will transform your relationship forever! Every relationship journeys to the crossroads of transformation. Perhaps your committed relationship or marriage is in crisis or failing. Or you don’t know how to heal after an affair. Or maybe it’s stagnant, and you…
We spend our whole lives looking for someone to love us. And ironically when we find that person, we spend as much time and energy running away from commitment. I remember for every milestone I reached in relationship, I found myself pushing the person away so I could protect my heart from being hurt ……
The thing that most people complain about in relationships is the lack of communication. I’m not sure it’s purely a lack of communication. I think what we are really saying is we don’t feel truly known in ways that make us feel cherished, close, connected and seen. Deep down many of us fear we are…
The past affects our relationships! Just because we had it going on as a single-person, (centered and enlightened) we become shocked and appalled by our reactions when our partner triggers us and awaken our “restless ghosts” from the past. Who, by the way, have been waiting for us to get into a serious relationship, so…
I have heard the term “self-centered fear” for many years in 12-step meetings along with stories about the harm that it causes couples in recovery. And now I’m noticing that “self-centered fear” not only causes great harm for those couples, but also for couples who are not in recovery. This is because we all get…
When Paula first interviewed Hedy for the “Loving Out Loud” summit almost two years ago, something crystallized inside her soul. There was a feeling of recognition, as if she was hearing her own truth spoken by another human being. This is a rare gift. Paula has the kind of raw courage and passion that will…
Often, words don’t truly describe things nearly as well as they describe our relationship to them. This is where misunderstanding and confusion come from. In our haste to communicate, we hear the words, but ignore the heart of what is being said. We stop at the words when, in fact, real listening happens in the…
There is something utterly romantic about Christmastime, flickering fireplaces, lights and kissing under the mistletoe. It feels like the world slows down for a while and we are reminded that the best gifts are not always found under the tree, but are standing right in front of us with open and welcoming arms. Ten years…
What does it mean to say YES to a life of connectedness in relationships? I’ve noticed that a lot of online coaches want us to act FAST. The goal is to set up a “sense of fear and URGENCY,” so we sign up for programs FAST before we have a chance to really think about…