The past election brought to the relationship stage a polarization in this country like we have not seen since the 1960’s. It brought to light a crisis between red and blue masculinity, a crisis in values. It woke us up out of our complacency about patriarchy, gender roles and their effect on psychotherapy. I want…
Politics has been at the forefront of nearly everyone’s mind lately, with protest gatherings on both sides across our country. Typically, when couples go to bed they are sheltered from the political barrage of news, but they may not be as insulated in the bedroom as they once thought. Pillow talk between spouses and lovers…
Politics has been at the forefront of nearly everyone’s mind lately, with protest gatherings on both sides across our country. Typically, when couples go to bed they are sheltered from the political barrage of news, but they may not be as insulated in the bedroom as they once thought. Pillow talk between spouses and lovers…
What does it mean to be human? This is a frightening question these days. Wouldn’t it be easier to stay on the surface of things and medicate ourselves rather than deal with stimulation, titillation or unpredictability in relationships; with whatever it is we do that allows the present reality to be produced over and over…
The relational paradigm is a shift in thinking. It shifts our perspective from seeing a world made up of things, to seeing a world that is open and made up primarily of relationships. It tells us that a deeper level of reality exist beyond what we can articulate. A place where everything is connected to…
It is ugly! It hurts; it’s toxic; it’s destructive. It threatens our joy and it gets in the way of us deeply connecting with others. When I was gripped by it, I wanted to die because it made me feel that I wasn’t good enough. So for years I was engulfed by it. Men walk…
Attempting to take one’s life over a break-up might seem dramatic and perhaps over the top to some people, but if you’re someone who grew up in alcoholism it may not seem that far fetched. Having protected our families by keeping secrets, we continue to act in certain ways to get approval. We take responsibility…
There is almost no bigger challenge in recovery than being married or in a committed relationship. I say this having worked in the field of mental health and addiction recovery for many years. During that time I have come across hundreds of recovering addicts and non-alcoholics who have struggled to maintain a loving relationship. From…