One of the biggest problems we encounter in relationships involves more than our minds. People tend to think with their feelings and decisions are made from this stance. When people are searching for a resolution to confusion, they will do or say almost anything—even if it is not rational.
Therapy provides a window in learning how the mind works. One would think that the mind follows the rules of logic — — A to B to C or 1 – 2 – 3. However, what I experience with clients in the therapy room is that the mind is made of a collection of loose associations, symbols, feeling states, fears and wishes.
Our mind moves from one state to another according to that person’s intrinsic values. At the core, many individuals are driven by primitive feelings of fear, aggression, sexual desires, envy — most of which reside in our unconscious. This is what shapes men and women’s minds and their view of reality. It is also a driving force in relationship behavior (personal and professional)—transcending all sense of logic and rationale.
When your mind is strengthened with the richness of your internal truth, then you can be free from a state of fear and terror. Such a mind can withstand and tolerate a sense of uncertainty and more than one reality, which allows you to choose what to do or how to respond. This is the greatest antidote to living in a perplexing circumstance, relationship or marriage.
Peace & blessings,
Dr. Paula
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