Relationships are baffling. The baffling part is how we can both love and hate the person we love the most. I remember when Yael and I started dating I was baffled by the strange reversals of some of our dates. I remember the date would start out full of excitement, curiosity and passion and end…
A lot of heterosexual relationships go off the deep end because partners are engaging in vicious interpersonal battles out of a mystification with love, co-creating a relational atmosphere of sadomasochistic intimate terrorism … instead of real love. One of the dangers of patriarchy for men and women is blind obedience, i.e., never questioning what is…
Do you sometimes have trouble seeing how your behavior impacts others? Do you rage at your partner and after you calm down apologize and brush it off by saying, “That was my alcoholic/addict behavior?” Do you have trouble communicating your fears, disappointments and desires to your partner? Do you obsess about your ex-partner’s and your…
The purpose of romantic love is to bond us with another so that we begin to experience the inevitable tension of the power struggle … and stay committed to the process of healing and growth. A relationship that is going through a power struggle is, in a sense, like a house divided against itself. It…