Let’s be real. Let’s be real. Let’s be real. It is clear that our current paradigm of relationships is not working. We are masking our feelings, emotions and desires and attacking one another as a way to cope with our fears and covering up feelings of vulnerability. For some of us the break-down of the current…
Most people don’t know much about twelve-step programs. However, I have intimate knowledge and experience with them. While they’re designed to help people recover from alcoholism and substance abuse, they also encourage those who are not recovering from addiction to take an honest look at themselves by practicing spirituality and humility by placing “self” within…
Infidelity happens for plenty of reasons. None of them good ones. It happens because of 1. ego or 2. stupidity or 3. disconnection. Or because of 4. smugness, 5. ignorance, 6. a widening ache, 7. an emptiness or 8. the need to know what else is there. Infidelity happens because of 9. arrogance, 10. a lack…
I knew we needed it. I’d even been the one to suggest it over the years when arguments festered for too long and drained us both. But when the day came and we entered our therapist’s office, I questioned if I was truly ready to rip off the bandaids I’d so carefully placed on old…
I think we look at love all wrong! Especially when we get hurt. We blame love. But love doesn’t hurt us. Someone who doesn’t know how to love hurt us, and we get confused between the two. I also think that after we’ve been hurt by something that what wasn’t love we build cages around…
There is always a natural cycle around a Shutdown; be it a government Shutdown or a Shutdown between two individuals after a conflict. The shutdown happens and there is a period where everyone silently ignores it, It doesn’t affect me directly. The shutdown has no impact. And the moment in life comes, Leaving us in…
Love is not a prison. It’s not butterflies in your stomach. That’s just chemistry. Love isn’t blind; it sees but chooses not to make a fuss. Love isn’t yesterday’s offenses brought forward to support today’s argument. It doesn’t slam doors or smash things. Call insanity by its name lest it be mistaken for something else.…
Emotional Abandonment, the Silent Killer in Relationships – The Antidote The most basic way to regulate difficult emotions in love relationships is to share them. Contrary to what we’ve been taught, emotion is not selfish, nor is it a corrupting force that inevitably leads to destruction. Emotion is not sinful. We’ve now learned that emotion…
Emotion is a Key Player in Love and Relationships The message publicized by the media and some therapists has been that we’re supposed to be in total control of our emotions before we can turn to others. You’ve probably heard this: love yourself first, and then another will love you. I have new, radical knowledge that turns that…