Before Imago, Yael and I had no idea how to have a relationship, nor did we know what to do with conflict. On some level we knew that we had within us what we needed to figure it out, but we lacked a framework, a way of understanding relationship, a common language and a skill-set that…
Imago relationship therapy (Imago is the Latin word for Image) is a cutting edge, transformational, relational model that helps couples restore connection, rediscover aliveness and joy and amplify the positive rather than the difficulties. Imago also teaches couples how to be empathetic and vulnerable. Oh … no, the “V” word. Unfortunately culture misguides us into thinking…
Since the election, a large majority of us have expressed feeling high anxiety and deep uncertainty around the country’s future. Seventeen months into the current administration, our nervous systems have been stuck on overload—by a sense of being under psychic, emotional, mental and spiritual attack almost daily. Some folks, including myself, have found relief in…
When we give someone the gift of forgiveness, it allows us to release our hurts and disappointments—having digested our grief about them. When we forgive, we “give for” ourself and those who hurt us. We move on, letting go of what harmed or offended us. Forgiveness does not mean blindly walking back into a…
“He hit me!” Daria announced in a harsh tone when she and Ricardo came in for their first couple’s session. “You provoked me until I did. You wanted me to hit you!” Ricardo rebutted. “No, I didn’t!” You always blaming me for everything. Why can’t you just take responsibility and say you’re abusive. You’re just…
It happens easily! Unconsciously and unintentionally we cross over the no-s0-visible boundary-lines with our partners, friends, colleagues, and children because we are not thinking. We are on automatic pilot, distracted, angry, sad, scared, tired or tense and before we know it, we’ve said something or done something that dishonors both of us. These painful slips…
Learning how to respect and maintain healthy boundaries in a marriage or committed relationship takes time, constant vigilance and patience—with oneself and with our partner. Expecting each other to be perfect or for habitual patterns to change overnight is magical thinking—it’s not realistic. When we live with someone we are bound to occasionally crossing each…