One of the key issues that I am acutely aware of is that both partners want and need to feel heard before they can open their minds to each other’s point of view. Even the slightest hint of feeling blamed or dismissed can trigger a backlash so deep where both partners will shut down because…
The election is over, but the repercussions of many relationships may be just beginning as spouses all over the contemplate uncomfortable holidays as they have been tested across the political divide. Unfortunately, it has been one huge freakin’ polarizing event. When I met Yael she was living her life as an Orthodox Jew, who kept…
Hello Friends & Happy Thanksgiving! I’ve had so many feelings and it’s a lot to express in one email. I would like to say that I had a great time in Los Angeles and I was grateful to spend some time with my Imago colleagues from around the world as well those who participated in…
Hello Friends! I’ll get right to it. One thing I know for sure, and unfortunately I know this from experience, is that racism and misogyny are devastatingly alive in this country. Sorry folks, this isn’t about Trump become our next President. It’s about what’s been hidden, ignored, weaponized … those whom we have victimized ……
So my approach to helping couples heal from infidelity begins with shifting their attention away from the old victim/perpetrator narrative to focusing their attention on the concept of the relational space between which is where their being together is really happening … Relationships happen in the space between you and that space is sacred. The…
There will always be something happening around us. We will encounter situations in life that are stressful, i.e., work, travel, children, finances, shocking election results, illness and yes, relationships. Life creates these waves on the surface, but within us there is a place that is intact, calm, peaceful and whole. It’s the place where we…
Those conversations leave us feeling empty, ashamed and starved. My client said, “I think I’ve said everything I needed to say.” I acknowledged him and said, “Sometimes things are left unsaid in us because our heads jump in and judge it. So we push it down and bury it. So it’s important to take the…
A lot of us get into relationships only to find ourselves becoming someone we do not recognize. We become mean to our partners and we don’t like the way it feels. We also don’t like the way the other person is treating us. In moments of quiet and solitude, we think this is not who…