The word anger comes from the Latin “angere,” means “to strangle.” Defined, anger is a strong sense of displeasure and antagonism that arises when a need isn’t met or an expectation isn’t fulfilled.
What typically gets us angry is being treated unfairly, manipulatively or with disrespect, especially if it’s intentional. Also feeling unappreciated, feeling threatened, or having our emotional or physical boundaries infringed upon.
These days our lives are so rage-filled we’ve given different names for these outbursts, like: road rage. plane rage. desk rage. cell phone rage and grocery store rage. This kind of out of control rage can have devastating effects in our lives.
How angry are you?
- When you are hurt, do you want to hurt the other person?
- Do little things make you mad?
- Are you frequently irritable, bossy or argumentative?
- Is your anger hard to control?
- Do you say things during a conflict that you regret later?
- Do you make judgmental or cutting remarks?
- Does your anger hurt your loved ones?
- Do you hold onto resentments?
- Do you lose your temper in traffic jams or lines?
If you answer yes to seven and nine questions is an indication of a high level of anger and compassion can help you respond more effectively. To learn how to get emotionally free click here.