I believe most of us want to “feel understood.” To make this happen, it is not enough to understand and say so. My parents often said, “We understand you!” at times when I was sure they didn’t have the vaguest idea what was going on in me. To make a person feel understood, we must do something the Imago community calls…
In this blog I am going to discuss the issue of Resentment. From time to time resentment becomes an important stumbling block for couples and even between groups of people. I include suggestions on how to remove a specific resentment. In my personal experience, removing resentments is not a passive activity. It cannot be done…
There are practical steps to bringing reconciliation to a troubled marriage and broken relationships. In Imago relationship therapy we take a much different approach to conflict and normal problem solving. Almost immediately couples, learn a new way and energy of communicating that empowers both of you; Not to hurt or “win;” Not to judge or blame…
The Universe listens to Mama’s. Mama’s have kissed the miracle of creation and made life out of nothing. Mama’s have shared the most profound magic with us in kairos and kronos time. Mama’s are disciples of the Goddess anointed with the greatest sacred task. Grandmothers are angelic magnetic beings. Grandma’s whispers and it becomes a…
Do you know what keeps conflict and the power struggle in place? Yep! Criticism. Criticism kills love. Criticism can kill a marriage. There is no such thing as constructive criticism in intimate relationships. When we criticize others we hurt them and we hurt ourselves. When we criticize our partner we freeze them in the very…